The readings this weekend might help us reflect on the theme of family (our own families and our community as family).

The first creation family broke down in the first reading from the book of Genesis due to their desire to become more than what they were created. They were disobedient to God, meaning not listening to God’s will. Jesus came and proclaimed a new family which focuses on God’s will: “Anyone who does the will of God, that person is my brother and sister and mother.”

We would be in a much brighter situation if only we let God be God, and let ourselves be who we really are. We would be living in a much easier and happier life if only we let God be the centre, the ultimate judge, and we the creatures of God, subjected to God’s boundless embrace of love. We, as judges, haven’t played the role very well. That’s why we experience and see endless wars, divisions, conflicts and violence.

Similarly, in family, if we put our egos in the centre, there would be fighting, separations, tensions, and possibly, violence. Ronald Rolheiser OMI says in one of his recent articles on marriage that one of the signs for a good marriage is spouses being like the body of Christ, being food for others. This can apply in family as well. A sign of a good family is everyone being able to give themselves up for others to be nurtured and nourished. This is the sign that we are listening, not to our egos, but to God’s will revealed through the person of Jesus.

In order to live a self-giving attitude in family life (and in any other life), I think one needs to contemplate on the image of the crucified Christ on Calvary, which we were reminded of on Friday, the feast day of the Sacred Heart:

“When they came to Jesus, they found he was already dead, and so instead of breaking his legs one of the soldiers pierced his side with a lance; and immediately there came out blood and water.”

Are we willing to let our hearts be pierced like that so that whatever inside can be revealed? Are we able to let our egos be broken down so manifesting our real selves? Are we letting God’s power to grace us to do that?

Let us pray for one another so that we may be able to live it day by day, in our families and parish family.

Br Khoi msc

Posted in Br Khoi Writes.